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2016 has been one heck of a year. Collectively, we have lost some phenomenal artists in the entertainment world. We have been let down by our police force, yet again. We’ve witnessed terror around the world with headlines in Turkey, France, and Palestine (only name a few).

Personally, I escaped verbal and emotional abuse in a relationship. I’ve done too many funerals, lost some friends and battled with seasonal depression.

But through it all, I have learned some valuable lessons that I think are worth sharing. There have been some tremendous joys and I have gained wisdom from others around me. Here are 16 things I’ve learned thus far:

  1. The Lord is good. His love and mercy truly do endure. I’ve never experienced a moment when the grace and mercy of God wasn’t enough. He’s a keeper.

  2. Set boundaries for yourself, especially in ministry. You’ll thank yourself later.

  3. Somewhere between nothing and everything is enough.

  4. Learn to say no without explaining myself. And I’ll add, not to feel guilty for it either.

  5. Full perspective comes over time, but it helps when we step out and step back.

  6. There are multiple ways to count to ten. Try counting by 2s, by 5s, or 10s. You’ll still end up at 10.

  7. Even when we are perfectionists, we must realize that we are in an imperfect world that is still turning regardless of our constant desire to be perfect in it.

  8. Protect your time. Protect your time with you. Protect your time with God. Protect your time with family and friends.

  9. Guard your anointing.

  10. Sometimes, getting it done is doing it well.

  11. For the sake of your own soul, do what you must do for your own peace and joy. Wholeness has to be a priority.

  12. Block and delete features exist for a reason. Use them. Some people we need to wish well, and then let go of them.

  13. Adulting is hard work. There are no play books or rule books. You just learn to play and work your way towards the goal. I’ve also learned that adulthood has two options: sink or swim. Floating is not an option. Only dead fish float.

  14. Now I understand why eagles drop their babies out the nest. At some point you have to learn to fly and then soar.

  15. When I left my momma’s house all I had were my clothes and my books. In many cases, being well dressed and well read is half the battle.

  16. Money isn’t everything, but healthy financial practices will save you some heartache.

Bonus: Counseling is essential. We don’t take mental health as seriously as we should. If you don’t have a therapist, get one. My life has been blessed through counseling because it has helped me to process in a healthy way. (I’ll share more on the need, for millennials in particular, to go to counseling in the future).

Now, these aren’t the only things that I have learned. These are just 16 and there is almost a half year left to go.

I hope some of these will encourage you.

Peace and Blessings,


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